Sex—& Sensual—ploration
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Healing Through Seduction
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Marie Sauvage
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Queer Sex Therapy
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The Samson Night
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SX Noir
Podcasts
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Lina Dune is a 24/7 collared submissive, kink writer, and, most importantly, a fairy submother to all who seek her advice. Her name is derived from two Anais Nin stories, “Lina” and “Woman On The Dunes.” She is based in Los Angeles and sprinkles her consent-driven fairy dust via her podcast, online courses, Twitter, and Instagram.
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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, an author, and has appeared on numerous television shows.
“Savage Love,” Dan’s sex-advice column, first appeared in the The Stranger, Seattle’s alternative weekly, in 1991. The column is now syndicated across the United States and Canada. Dan has published six books. His newest book, Savage Love from A to Z: Advice on Sex and Relationships, Dating and Mating, Exes and Extras will be published in September of 2021.
In 2006, Dan launched the Savage Lovecast, a weekly, call-in advice podcast. It has 300,000 unique monthly downloads and 100,000 paying subscribers for premium Magnum content. It ranks consistently in the top ten Sexuality podcasts on Apple Podcasts.
In 2010 Dan and his husband Terry Miller founded the It Gets Better Project. The IGBP has gathered tens of thousands of videos from people all over the world offering hope to LGBT kids. The book—It Gets Better: Coming Out, Overcoming Bullying, and Creating a Life Worth Living—was a New York Times best seller. In 2012 the It Gets Better Project was awarded an Emmy.
Dan’s graphic, pragmatic, and humorous advice has changed the cultural conversation about monogamy, gay rights, religiosity, and politics.
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Hailed as changing the way society thinks about female sexuality, Guys We F#@$!D continues to pave the way toward a healthier outlook on sex. Hosted by stand-up comedians Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson, this critically acclaimed podcast will be your new best friend.
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Doctor of Human Sexuality, Emily Morse, is on a mission to liberate the conversation about sex and pleasure. Over the last 18 years, Morse’s work has made her the best-selling author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight!, a pioneering MasterClass Instructor on Sex and Communication, live SiriusXM radio host and executive producer, and host of the #1 Sexuality podcast on iTunes, Sex With Emily.
Morse has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives.
Emily has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes, and The Times of London.
Today, Sex With Emily is the longest-running sex and relationship podcast, and an endeavor that Morse has grown into a thriving media company.
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Tina Horn is a writer, teacher, and media-maker. She hosts and produces the long-running kink podcast Why Are People Into That?!. She is also the creator and writer of the sci-fi sex-rebel comic book series SfSx (Safe Sex). Her reporting on sexual subcultures and politics has appeared in Rolling Stone, Playboy, Hazlitt, Glamour, Jezebel and elsewhere; she is the author of two nonfiction books and has contributed to or creative directed numerous anthologies including the queer horror collection Theater of Terror and the feminist essay collections We Too and Believe Me. She’s also worked as a development editor in nonfiction publishing. Tina has lectured on sex worker politics and queer BDSM identities at universities and community centers all over North America, and works as an on-set consultant for film/tv/theater including Pose. She is a LAMBDA Literary Fellow, the winner of two Feminist Porn Awards, an AVN-nominated director, and holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence. Originally from Northern California, Tina spent a decade in NYC before re-settling in Los Angeles.
Books & Articles
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kaylalords.com/figure-out-your-kinks
Figuring out your kinks is different for everyone. Some people know from childhood that they’re into certain things. Others of us (*raises hand*) don’t figure it out until we’re well into adulthood — I was 32. But even once you know you’re kinky, there’s still plenty more to discover. The kinks you’ve figured out (rough sex, spankings, bondage) might be the tip of the iceberg. So how do you find your kinks? There are multiple ways!
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carasutra.com/bdsm-beginners-guide/
My BDSM Beginner’s Guide: Understanding D/s plus hot kinky tips for beginners.
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The Books Every Poly Newbie Needs
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kinkly.com/forms-of-kink-an-outline-for-beginners
Entering the world of BDSM can be daunting. You’re welcomed with open arms, but a lot of people don’t know where to start. They don’t know what to try or what type of kink they’re into. Since you might lack mentorship or guidance upon first entering the lifestyle, consider this a road map to help guide you through some of the different forms of kink. There’s a lot to choose from, but we’ll get through it together. First, let's look at a few general tips and definitions to get you started on your journey.
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Modern Love is a weekly column, a book, a podcast and a television show about relationships, feelings, betrayals and revelations.
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beautifullybound.com/bdsm-safety
The first thing to understand is an experienced Dominant (I am using the term Dominant to encompass all Tops gender inclusive) will not be in a hurry with the vetting process. They will want to get to know you, should want to know all about you, even have some questionaries to fill out …
Kink Tests
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This test helps you to learn your dominant sexual archetype. You'll learn how you naturally get turned off, aroused and what are the kinks you are most likely to enjoy. It’s very important to know also how your partner(s) get aroused and what kind of kinks they are most likely to enjoy. If you and your partner(s) take this test together, it’s a great chance to start a conversation about this and learn tons about each other.
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As you see you'll quickly be introduced to different terms from the BDSM community and presented with ideas to try.
Definitions
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List of (some) fetishes/kinks to discuss with your partner/think about solo - do I like doing this to others, having it done to me? Or both?
Affectionate Domination
Bare Bottom Spanking
Begging
Biting
Blindfolds
Blow Jobs
Breast/Nipple Play
Candle Wax
Caressing
Choking Play
Clit Spanking
Cock-sucking
Control
Cuddling
Cunnilingus
Dildos
Doggy Style
Exhibitionism
Face-sitting/smothering
Fingering
Hair Pulling
Handcuffs
Intelligence
Light Bondage
Massages
Masturbation
Multiple Orgasms
Mutual Masturbation
Oral Sex
Outdoor sex
Phone Sex
Rimming
Sensualism
Sex In Public
Sexting
Spanking
Talking Dirty
Teasing
Toys
Trust
Vibrators
Armbinders
Ass Play
Being Overpowered
Bondage Equipment
Clamps and Clip
Cock Milking
Collars
Cunt Worship
Domination
Double Penetration
Eating Pussy
Erotic Photography
Flogging
FMF
Fucking machines
Glass Dildos
Group Sex
Impact Play
Master/Slave
Mental Bondage
Mistress/slave
Mistresses with Strap-Ons
MMF Threesomes
Obedience Training
Orgasm Control
Orgasm Denial
Orgy
Pain
Pegging
Power Exchange
Pressure points
Prostate Massage
Prostate Milking
Pussy Pumping
Remote-Control Devices
Restraints
Riding Crops
Rope Bondage/Suspension
Rope Play
Sensual Domination
Service-oriented submission
Shibari
Spreader Bars
Squirting
Strap-ons
Submission
Suspension Bondage
Switching
Tantra
Total Power Exchange
Triple Penetration
Two-Girl Blowjobs
Voyeurism
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Community & Events
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susannebartsch.com/bartschland-follies
Susanne Bartsch is New York City’s patron saint of transformation and inclusion. The parties she’s thrown for three decades—from Paris to Tokyo—have provided a venue for countless creative souls and “creatures” to express themselves, come together and forget the hum-drum of the everyday. As Michael Schulman wrote in his 2013 New York Times profile, Susanne’s “empire” continues to flourish “particularly among scene seekers too green to know her history. Wherever Ms. Bartsch goes, the demimonde seems to follow, as if summoned by the bat of her curlicued fake eyelashes.” Fashion mogul John Badum once referred to Susanne as “Mother Teresa in a glitter G-string.”
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Cakehole is a queer-friendly, consent-oriented, do it yourself BDSM play party in New York City, for everyone.
Everyone has a cakehole.
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Caligula NEW YORK is a private, upscale social club for couples, single ladies and select single gentlemen. Caligula NEW YORK offers a sexy atmosphere that is dedicated to sexual exploration, the art of love making, and sexual fulfillment . We provide a no-pressure environment where people can meet old friends and make new ones in a secure manner. This club was created by individuals in the LifeStyle for the LifeStyle…a place where you can be as tame as you want to be, or as wild as you CAN be.
We understand LifeStyle wants and needs, and our premises provide such amenities. We provide a safe, clean place for your enjoyment and exploration.
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“A posh, private, pleasure place devoted to the Erotic”–this is what organizers describe their space to be. The club is open on Fridays, 10 p.m. to 4 a.m. Its territory is a loft with nooks and crannies designed for intimate games and a fully-fitted section for BDSM scenarios. Single guests are allowed only when arranging to attend in advance. The procedure is also recommended for couples to guarantee the entry.
The club is wrapped in the mist of secrecy, this being a part of the club owners’ policy: even dress-code remains a secret until applying for event participation.
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FetLife is the Most Popular Social Network for the BDSM, Fetish & Kinky Community.
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Hacienda is a community that celebrates sexuality, educates the curious, and creates opportunities to meet new friends and lovers.
We do this by hosting play parties and socials, putting on a variety of educational workshops, and cultivating beautiful living environments.
We create spaces where people can learn, gather, and responsibly enjoy and explore their sexuality.
We believe you can have the best night of your life on a regular basis.
The Hacienda community welcomes people of all races, gender expressions, orientations, body types, relationship structures, abilities, and ages (21+).
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House of Scorpio is the sister company of Gemini and Scorpio, a fab event-planning duo known for immersive themed costume parties. We are a femme- and queer-owned sex-positive community promoting equal rights and creating safe space for people of all genders and sexual orientations, and seeking to change cultural attitudes and norms around gender & sexuality. We embrace a thinking person's approach to sexuality, with events including book clubs and sex ed classes, and have an ongoing love affair with all things nerdy. We also engage in advocacy for LGBTQIA+ issues and sex worker rights.
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We have created this space as a temple of expression dedicated to connection, creativity and celebrating life. We believe that performance, dance and art can inspire and heal us. We believe in the creative energy of every person who enters this space We believe the world can be a better place. We believe that weird is wonderful. See you on the dance floor.
The House of Yes club does not limit itself to parties for sex-positive people. Some days are left for those who simply enjoy dancing. Themed parties a la “night of sensual debauchery” are designed for guests who at least once in the lifetime want to spend the night walking on the edge of one’s boundaries, or maybe even lose themselves for a while and take a step beyond it.
A House of Yes kinky party starts with a pretty good dinner with meals served and talks going between all members. But the dinner shall progressively turn into an overwhelming act which atmosphere resembles the Eyes Wide Shut movie.
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The New Society for Wellness is a community for those who want to prioritize exploration in their lives. To be accepted individuals are evaluated on multiple points of attraction, relationships and creative endeavors.
We have a selective process to ensure we’re connecting with people who uphold the values of the NSFW and who would best fit in our community.
By becoming a member you can access our chats, adventures, workshops and private community. Attend workshops led by experts, indulge in delectable meals prepared by renowned chefs and form new relationships.
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We provide various educational, coaching, events, and services to build an inclusive community. We welcome all members, including those who identify as polyamorous, LGBTQIA+, BIPOC, plus size, and interested in sacred intimacies. Our space is also perfect for first timers and newcomers. No experience needed.
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The Ultimate Private Members Club
We are a private network for intellectually and sexually curious women. Explore your desires with us.
Our goal is to be the catalyst for each woman to become the mistress of her own life.
We are a community crafted upon self-discovery, self-exploration, self-confidence, and self-love.